Overall I think of myself as a very caring, compassionate,
giving person and I enjoyed the universal Loving Kindness exercise, because it
actually made me take time out of my day and consciously think of other people
and how I can help others. Sometimes life
gets too hectic and I find myself constantly playing catch up that I forget to
think of others outside of my own little family (my husband and two kids). I am really close with my Mom and I talk to
her almost every day to see how things are with her and the rest of the family,
but outside of that I get caught up in my own personal things and forget others
at times. This exercise allowed me to
expand my mind outward and think of others.
When I did the Integral Assessment exercise I chose to focus
on growth and development in my job. I
recently changed jobs and I got a new job that I thought was better than the
one I had and now I’m sorry to say I was wrong.
I do not like my new job at all and I am now looking to find another
job. I am so frustrated with myself for
changing jobs. However I look back and I
thought I was doing the right thing in the moment when I took on this new
job. I like the job itself, but I do not
care for the people I work with. I can get
along with everyone so that isn’t the problem.
Let’s just say I hold myself and my work standards to a certain level
and this office I’m working in does not require their employees to hold
themselves to the same level as I do and it’s very frustrating. I am
now spending my extra time looking for a new job and I am so mad at myself
because I do not want to be the type of person that keeps moving from job to
job, but I also think life is too short to be working a job that I do not enjoy
going to.
Some exercises I can do to foster greater wellness in this
area is keep focusing on what I need to do and keep asking myself what else I
can do personally to make this situation better. I can also have a positive mind about the
situation and not beat myself up over this decision I made that turned out not
to be a good one. I just have to remind
myself that things happen for a reason and sometimes doors close and new doors
open. I just have to tell myself to be
patient and something good will come out of all of this and if nothing else
this has been a learning experience.
The Loving-kindness exercise, I also like very much, and for the same reason that it allows for ust o consider and think of others. You seem to very outgoing, and so instead of thinking what you don't like think of the qualities in each person instead of what they are not. No one is perfect, and though you are a wondersful person, some just don't grasp what we can amaizingly amount to. If you feel good about your self, every time you have a negative thought you need to reverse that to a posistive. It is never nice to talk about others, right? Well so don't think of what the people at your work are likebecause you want to keep only good things, I am sure there are some greater qualities to this job that you accepted, and I am sure it was not for the people you'll be workiong with, besides there are those in higher placews of that job that probably you seeing to exceed and excellerate in areas that thwe others aren't as good in doing as you!
ReplyDeleteKelly,
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry that you do not like your new job. I know all too well that we are all compelled to work out of financial necessity. It seems as though we are always "slaves" of the person who employs us. Many times that can make us feel like we are losing control of our own inner being. It's a viscious cycle because this makes us angry and that increases our stress levels. Perhaps you could "see work as an opportunity to serve", as stated in Dacher, (2006). Try the essential steps of transformation through work and see if it makes a difference for you. I find it amusing that when I smile much of the day, even when surrounded by grouchy and negative people, it does one of two things; it either annoys them because they do not understand what there is to smile about, or it becomes contagious and sooner or later most of them are smiling as well. People have asked me, "why do you smile so much"? I just reply that it actually takes more facial muscles to frown than smile or "because it makes everyone wonder what I am up to."
Also remember that God has a plan for each of us and sometimes we have to encounter many difficulties before we are clear as to what that plan is.
I liked the loving kindness exercise too. I have always thought of myself as a caring and understanding person as well. You are right, sometimes we do get caught in our day to day activities and we forget about others. That is sad, but, we do tend to do it. Having a positive attitude about everything and anything will help you. Also, staying focus on what you want to do will help as well.
ReplyDeleteHello Kelly,
ReplyDeleteI know what it is like not to like your job. We are in times where we have to work in places where they do not appreciate the help they have. Just keep looking up my dear. We just need some me time....Rachael!! I am guilty myself, being in ministry, and traveling, counseling, I am always on the road. Now, I have added school to my life....Wow!! I am so glad you were able to exercise your mind on this exercise. I was not able to enjoy neither one this time. There was so much going on, so I am going to do then both again.
Just keep your focus, and hold on. Always remember, when you stay positive, you can have control over any situation. Stay strong, and keep the faith.